The Jump to Two

The truth behind your second baby.

The jump to two. The biggest question is, is it worth it? The short answer is yes. Becoming a first-time mother is like stepping into the wilderness. As for a second-time mother, it's a leap of faith. I knew from a very young age that I wanted to have children sooner than others. I fell pregnant with my eldest at only 17 and welcomed her into the world in February 2022. I fell pregnant exactly 19 months later, welcoming my littlest in June just past and I could not be happier with my two little girls. 

Jasmine and Rosie, 2years old & 7months old.

There are 28 months between my girls, and two-under-three life has been a rollercoaster. I would be dishonest to say I didn't have my worries during my last pregnancy about how I would do it all.

It is true what they say. No matter how many more you have after you're first, they will slide right into your routines. Do not get me wrong, I still have days i where feel super overwhelmed. Juggling the girls, the house, work and social life gets a little crazy sometimes not to mention all the unexpected events life throws at you from time to time.

If it is any consolation, I do have what may be subjectively good news for you. Pregnancy is the biggest hurdle. Pregnancy is hard on its own without a toddler to run after. As scary as it seemed at the time, nearly 2years later I can happily admit that the pregnancy was a lot harder than handling a newborn and toddler at the same time. I have most of my energy back. As much as I like to complain to my close ones about my daily little struggles, I think I secretly love the rush of it all. I count my lucky stars every day that I get to be a mum to my two amazing babies. They keep me on my feet for sure but I wouldn't have it any other way. I am extremely grateful to have such an incredible support system around me.

If I have any tips for mothers out there, find mum friends. I may not have the key to balancing life in motherhood but one thing I know indubitably is that forming relationships with other mothers is paramount. It feels so good to be able to talk to others who relate to your lifestyle.

I was more shocked than expected when I was pregnant the second time around. My symptoms were so different I was entirely convinced I was having a boy. I assumed in the months leading up to falling pregnant that it would be all the same as the first time around. When they say no two pregnancies are the same, that goes for all of your own too. The same goes for your babies too. I thought I would be the expert this time around however Rosie has an entirely different personality, likes and dislikes already. If you had a really difficult first time mum experience, please dont let it scare you to experience that again becuase you very well may not!

Gathering my thoughts and experiences, I am in awe. I surely cannot put into words how cherishable it is to watch your baby become a sibling. Throughout all the ups and downs I must say it is a truly remarkable experience <3