I never envisioned 22 being diapers and ABC's. This was meant to be and i could not be richer.

Falling pregnant at 17 years old wasn't exactly in my five year plan, leaving highschool just the year before. I was living between homes and working in a call center. I held my plans for any further education as i wasnt completely sure where i wanted to be in life. My job at the time paid good for not having any real bills or dependancies. Covid Lockdown restrictions were still fluctuating meaning me and my little headset went between the office and my bedroom alot. I guess it was a period of time where i didn't really have any clue what i was really doing or where i was going in life, that was untill i fell pregnant. Although terrified at the time, i fell inlove with my little baby the moment i took that test. I had always dreamed of having children and being a mum, and at a time where i didnt know what to do with my life i really felt this was meant to be.

1. Maturity is not about age

Everyone is exploring and finding their independence in their own ways, i believe you mature differently when you have kids regardless of your age with all of the rolls and added responsibilities you take on.

2. Success looks different

I used to believe success was independent to your annual income and the materials you accumulate. Success to me now honestly is having a warm home, hobbies & passions, a steady income and good health.

3. My idea of faith changed

I have always believed in God and grew up around faith & bible teachings but i admit, it never took much priority in my life. When i had kids my believes changed and naturally strengthened and i made the decision to priorities it more. Im not perfect but im learning every day what it is like to be closer to God.

4. My idea of friendships & socialising changed

I used to struggle during & after my first pregnancy with loneliness. I didnt feel like i could fit in with my friends anymore and my social life really took a hit. Over the years i learned how to balance my social life amongst being a mum. I naturally made new friends who had young kids like myself who i could meet for coffees & soft-play dates. I also love meeting old friends every few months to catch up. I learned mostly that having friends and a social life did not mean it had to include alcohol & partying. I learned that i didnt have to isolate myself from my friends because thats what i believed people my age only wanted to do. 99% of my social life now includes my children & i could not be happier.

5. Needs & wants are not what i thought they were

My whole life revolved and prioritises my family, children & our health. I feel incredibly grateful to have the opportunity to give my children a clean diet, a warm home and running electricity. That will always come before anything to me & feeling that gratitude.

Falling pregnant at 17 years old, and having my little girl [Jasmine] at 18 completely reshaped me as a human being. Becoming a mother naturaly recentered my values and opinions. Becoming a mother regardless of the time i spent on this earth motivated me more than ever before to grow and become the best version of myself for both of my daughters.