It’s Okay to Love Being a Mum… and Still Not Love Every Part of It

Motherhood isn’t about perfection — it’s about showing up, embracing the hard seasons, and finding your balance along the way.

Thats right. It's ok. I am a mother. I love being a mum so much. I used to feel so guilty for this, until I realised these feelings are more normal than you think. I love my babies more than life itself, I cannot express this enough. But not every stage is my favourite. I have found the last few weeks extremely difficult with my youngest just turning 18 months.

My girls have always been amazing sleepers and I think that’s why I’m finding this tougher than I thought I would. My youngest daughter recently had a few weeks where she just did not sleep. Up all night, up all day. I felt like I couldn’t get a break, and having a 3 year old took away my opportunity to nap and catch up on lost sleep. I was sleep deprived. Heavily. Since having my youngest, this has been the toughest stage. I used to love bedtime with the girls, I set a routine very early on to have them both sleep trained, drifting off no later than 7pm. Lately, I haven’t loved bedtime at all. Perhaps the last few weeks of sleep deprivation have made me incredibly irritated, but when 9pm hits and my youngest is still full of beans, I feel defeated.

I also learnt very quickly I am not so imaginative when it comes to play. I used to feel so let down by myself when I would sit there with a Barbie in my hand having no idea what to do with it. I also really don’t like having the girls in the kitchen as much as I would like. In all honesty, I really get stressed about the mess. But that’s okay.

Turns out my lack of imaginative play is balanced by my attentive reading skills, creativity in arts and crafts, and patience for home schooling. I think its important to highlight and remind yourself your own strengths when you feel like you have so many weaknesses - and thats the balance I needed to find.

Over the years I’ve learned that striving to be the perfect mum is unrealistic and silly. I focus on being the best version of myself for my girls. I’m glad to make mistakes because it’s the mistakes we are blessed to learn from. It’s okay to love being a mum and still not love all the parts of being one. It’s okay to not enjoy being sleep deprived and it’s okay to not be great at everything. Being supermum doesn’t equal being perfect, it means showing up and being there through it all. It means just being you and loving your little babies. You’re not failing mama, you’re just finding your balance <3